Welcome lovely Darwinites to a post all about top tips on happiness, hopefully something will intrigue you…
So you may have read my last post where I tried to explain what happiness actually is, but if you didn’t here’s a recap; happiness is subjective, there are ways it can be measured and we found out that roughly 50% is determined by genetics, 10% by life circumstances and the remaining 40% depends on your choice of daily activities. And that’s how we got here, and I hopefully have some tips that you find helpful to that 40%.
Why does working on your happiness matter?
Contrary to popular belief happiness doesn’t just happen for everyone, and studies haves shown modern living is depressing, so focusing and working on your happiness is important. Happiness is good for your health, relationships, it makes us more productive and able to cope with stress and trauma better, as well as making us more creative and better to see the big picture.
Here are our top tips;
Smile as much as you can, try to think of funny memories and have a chuckle, it raises your serotonin levels and gives you good feelings. (don’t fake a smile though, you have to mean it as studies show this can make you feel worse)
Spending time with positive people
Being around people who have a positive attitude will rub off on you. It will also help to bring you out of a bad mood.
Do what you enjoy more often
Doing something you enjoy is a pleasure stimulus, making time for that is important to our overall well-being.
Have new experiences
Try new things, go to new places, this will give you a sense of accomplishment and enjoyment. Some of our locations offer Go Active programmes, the perfect opportunity to visit a new place and try something new, like archery or waterwalkerz!
This comes up on most (if not all) top tips of anything health related. And the reason is because it’s actually good for you, it releases all sorts of chemicals into your brain to make you feel good.
Lack of sleep is damaging to your mental health and happiness, it makes you unproductive, distracted and short tempered. Tired people remember up to 81% of negative words, and only 31% of positive words, having a profound impact on your happiness. (Yes that is Hugo and Bella snuggled in my bed, swoon away!)
Engagement has been found as a key part in happiness, according to the father of positive psychology, Dr Martin Seligman. The need for interaction is engrained in us, sharing our load and finding joy with family and friends.
This will help you sleep, sorting through your thoughts and to do’s will have clear your mind and put it to rest before you sleep.
Don’t compare your happiness to anyone elses, remember it is subjective. Social media plays a huge role in this, I recently saw a quote “we compare our behind the scenes to everyone elses highlights”. Avoid!
Maybe contradicting after the last tip, but it’s different. Observe others patterns and take what you find useful. Your goal is inspiration for happiness, not to compare or copy what they are doing.
So that’s it Darwinites, hopefully something was useful for you, always practice breathing exercises and mindfulness to help combat negative thought patterns. Positive psychologist Sonja Lynbomirsky states that happiness is “the experience of joy, contentment or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful and worthwhile.” But remember the goal is to find happiness on the journey, not to make happiness the prize, the Dalai Lama says it much better than me; “There doesn’t exsist a path to happiness, the path is happiness”.
Basically don’t get too bogged down in trying to find happiness, that you forgot to actually be happy.
And always remember, take a breath, keeping moving forward and always be kind to yourself.